Push(y) Real Good

Ziggy Assertiveness Cartoon

I’ve been a passive person most of my life. It wasn’t till recently when I turned 30 that I realized that I needed to become more assertive and direct with my thoughts and feelings, especially if I want to be a successful professional. In order to be strong in my professional life, I need to start being direct in my everyday life.

I honestly think that I’m waaaay better than I was before. I remember staying quiet when someone said or did something that I didn’t like, or said, “Yes.” when I really wanted to say, “No.” I blame it on always being told to ask for permission first.  When I was younger, it was all about waiting your turn, asking for the OK from some authority figure, or waiting on your teacher to come look at your work to make sure you got it right before you proceeded to the next problem. Maybe it’s so deeply ingrained from these experiences that it’s hard for us (women more so) to be in a leadership role and not just part of the team.

You’ve heard the expression that men who are direct are “just being leaders” where women who are direct are being “bossy” or (gasp!) being “bitchy.”

Being considered a bitch is something I never want to be called. But then again, do I want to be called a passive, weak person instead? I feel like I can’t win. There MUST be a medium where I can be a #GIRLBOSS and not hurt anyone’s feelings. Or do I do what’s right for me, even though it might hurt someone’s feelings?? W.W. S. D.? What would Sophia (Amoruso) do?

Perhaps there’s my style of being direct and assertive, in my girly way. I think there can be Girly Boss where I’m still nice and thoughtful of others feelings yet still do and say what’s right for me. I wonder if this exists. As my husband lovingly looks over what I’m looking at on Pinterest and says, “If you’re looking online what assertive is, then you’re not being assertive.”  Thanks, hun.

What are your thoughts on this matter? I’d love to know! In the meantime, I will be working on being a Girly Boss and share my findings with you.

I mean, if Beyonce can do it, so can I! (And so can you!!) I love having inspiring and strong women for role models. Don’t you?

Beyonce I'm the Boss

<3 always,

christina

Happy (Pre)Halloween to the Great Pumpkin

Instagram halloween costume

My husband and I had our annual Happy Halloween Costume party last Saturday. It was a blast. I dare say my favorite party in the history of our party records.

This was the 5th year hosting and inviting all our friends and family for a fun night dancing under orange lights, drinking October-influenced beers, and eating Pinterest-worthy desserts. EVERYONE went all out. Whether by their costumes, the food and drinks they brought, and their overall love for this holiday. It was suuuper fun and if ya’ll lived closer to me, you’d be invited for sure!!

Here are a few photos from the night. I dressed up as Khaleesi from Game of Thrones (love her!) and my husband was Mr. Bear on Instagram (sidenote: he’s still wearing his bear hat!)

Ted Homemade Instagram Costume Khaleesi
Khaleesi costume
rainbow brite and Khaleesi
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Group Halloween
vampire and khaleesi
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cards against humanity
wayne and garth
cop and Lorde costume
Group halloween photo
Gator and FSU fan
dale and terri
chocolate broomsticks
dessert graveyard
rainbow brite and pirate
friends halloween
bad dog costume
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SAM_1985
Brutus and me
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Hosting our Halloween costume party every year is our way of welcoming the season and all the fun that is on the horizon. What’s your favorite thing to do for Halloween? I’d love to know! Also, do you dress up? I’d love to hear all about your costume and everything!

<3 always,
christina

Masks Off: Daily Prompt

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We’re less than a week away from Halloween! If you had to design a costume that channeled your true, innermost self, what would that costume look like? Would you dare to wear it?

If I had to design a costume that channeled my innermost, true self, it would most likely be a princess version of myself. Haha. I would look like a Disney princess with a big, glittery gown, sparkly shoes, and a tiara, of course. It would be a mish mash of Disney princess and Hello Kitty. Lots and lots of pink, flowers, glitter, bows, tulle, and cuteness. My tiara would be covered in Aurora Borealis crystals and Hello Kitty pink stones.

Hello Kitty Sanrio Shopping

At Downtown Disney, there is a salon that allows this fun time, but it’s only for children. The Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique offers packages for any little girl become a princess. You choose the hairstyle you want, makeup, a princess sash and tote, nail polish, and your costume. Your costume can be as simple as a sash, tee-shirt, or full-on costume with accessories. I SO wanted to get myself done over when we were in Downtown Disney this Summer. I mean, who doesn’t want this??!!

Can you imagine my “costume” now? As far as wearing it,  I would totally wear this out. I would wear it proudly. {waving Princess-style} As far as I see it, I feel like I wear this look everyday. I don’t call it a mask or costume, but my true lifebeinggirly style!

What would your mask look like? I’d love to know!

<3 always,

christina

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Your About Me page

We are constantly bombarded with new ideas, things, and findings.

Take those little moments and soon they’ll add up to a month and so on and so forth. I mean, it’s November 1st next week! So cray cray, that you’ll stop and realize that it’s been a whole year since you’ve looked at something. That something in my life is my About Me page.

We {bloggers} most likely have an About Me page that we worked tediously on since we knew it might be the first (or last) view a visitor to our page will see. I know that when I visit blogs I always do a quick scan of the website, then immediately click on their About Me page. If I feel a blogging connection, I’ll read their posts and hit the Follow button. I can’t remember where I heard this, but I remember being asked what are a few of my pet peeves. One of them is when I visit a blog’s page and see that their About Me page is blank. Booooo!! Sad face. I now think of your blog as a bot and something you don’t take seriously. Does anyone else feel this way?

So going back to my About Me page. It really has been a whole year since I started Lifebeinggirly, and although I have always edited things here and there, I like to take these small moments to say what’s changed in my life, my writing style, my blog’s voice, etc. and make sure I explain that on my About page.

Tonight was a night where I noticed I changed a few things.

I completely took out the Postaday challenge. Did you ever take part in that? I don’t even think WordPress calls it that anymore! I loved writing to prompts everyday when I was new blogger. I may go back to participating, but I’m happy with my blogging schedule I have now.

I rearranged the paragraphs to hopefully have it flow easier and make it engaging to read. I kept my current photo for now and I have ideas stirring for what and where my new About Me photo should be like. I feel like I learn something new everyday and I want to share that with you. I want to make my About Me page sparkle as much as it possibly can. These are the things that make being a blogger so much fun. I’m in charge of how my page looks and what goes on it. I love being a blogger!!

How do you feel about your About Me page? When was the last time you edited it or read it? I’d love to know!

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I hope you have a fabulous weekend! I don’t think I shared this with you, but tomorrow is our Annual Halloween Costume Party!! There will be photos for sure! Whatever your plans are, I hope you have fun!

<3 always,

christina

Pink is Always a Good Idea: Thursday Thoughts

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via A Bubbly Life
via A Bubbly Life

Weaving around my Pinterest feed, I found this SUPER CUTE and SUPER PRETTY and PINK printable on A Bubbly Life blog.

I thought we could all use an extra dose of fun things today so here you go!! I already printed out mine and currently looking for a spot in my house that needs some extra girlyness to it.

I printed out a second one to attach to a DIY planner that I’m working on. I’m sure you’ve seen the highly coveted Kate Spade planners all the pretty bloggers are sharing photos of. I would LOVE one but they’re like, $35!! I’m going to print out some FREE planners like from Cutie Cameras and decorate my planner/binder for waaaay less and even more girly since it’ll be completely my style! Stay tuned for pics!

Have you ever lusted after something that instead of buying it, you decided to DIY it? I’d love to know what project(s) you’ve worked on or are currently working on now!

Here’s to Friday Eve!

<3 always,

christina

Husband and Wife Team

I used to make fun of my older sister for referring to herself and her husband as “Husband and Wife Team.”

Every time we had a family get together, she would always boast that they are the amazing “husband and wife team.” At first I thought it was kinda cute, but then they  she would start signing family birthday cards with “from Husband and wife team.” That’s when I started rolling my eyes at the sight of it, or when she continued to call themselves that.

I rolled my eyes at the mere thought of calling my husband and I a team. Sure, we are married and love each other and have the same last name, however, we were still our separate selves. There’s nothing that I wouldn’t do for my man but I still wouldn’t want to refer to ourselves as a “team.” It’s just the two of us, not the teams my husband keeps up with every Sunday, Monday, and Thursday (did you know they now have football on Thursday night?! Soon it will be on every night! OK, back to my story.)

I didn’t care for calling ourselves that. Until tonight, that is.

You know that feeling you get when you know someone is holding in sad, upset feelings but they don’t wanna share it with you? Don’t laugh, but I can sense it when a person is giving off hurt vibes, like I could literally see the brick of whatever feelings my husband had on his chest. It was radiating from his body even though he wasn’t sitting next to me. But instead of telling me about them, he kept the feeling living there and stewing. It was the sad stew I sensed.

“Hey, are you okay? What’s up, hun?” I asked.

“Oh, nothing. I’m fine.” he replies.

Now I know when I reply “nothing” that it means it’s a whole lotta something going on! In this case, we weren’t fighting over anything, it was just a feeling I got. Something wasn’t right, I knew he was stressed out about something.

The Nothing reply/brush-off is really a lie we tell people to allow ourselves to figure out things on our own, to not burden the other person with your problems, or simply you just don’t want to go into it just yet.

After poking, prodding, and having a staring contest with him, he finally let it go and told me how stressed out he was. He told me about what things are upsetting him. I felt sad that he didn’t want to tell me these things till now.

“Why don’t you tell me? I want to know what you’re thinking, especially if you are sad. You do the same thing for me! I complain and get upset over so many things that it’s only fair that I get to swap places with you!

Let’s be equal. Let’s be a team. Our team.”

I stopped myself when I said that out loud. I GET IT NOW. I understood my sister.

Being married doesn’t naturally equate that since I have a husband now, he has to be strong all the time for me and not be sad/stressed/scared of anything to upset me, the little, delicate wifey. This may have been the norm back in the 50’s and probably what both our parents modeled, but we are in a completely different time than they were when they were a young couple (as in married years, NOT age)

My husband knows how I deal with change and sad things, so he wanted to keep his bad stuff away from me. I love him for that notion, but I don’t see that fair nor do I see that as a complete relationship and marriage. Share with me! I’m studying to be a professional counselor! Not only do I want to know what’s wrong, but I want to help.

Just like in teams, you work together. You tap out with them when one is struggling against the opponent. You try your hardest to win together. There will be plenty of losses before you get the trophy of life (whatever that is) but I’m happy to have him as my teammate.

Here’s to becoming and having my husband and wife team. Here’s to winning at life together!

Love you, Bear!

What will we be this year??
What will we be this year??

Do you consider your hubby/partner or anyone in your life your teammate? I’d love to hear about your team!!

<3 always,

christina

TRU Hair Giveaway!!

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This is my first giveaway on my blog and I’m super happy to host this shining giveaway.

I recently started trying to get into Tampa’s social media scene through Instagram, and was luckily contacted by TRU Hair, a company by Chelsea Scott. I was offered to try out a product of my choice AND gave me an extra product for me to giveaway! YAY! Triple YAY to meeting new people, trying out new products, AND being able to share this miracle product.

So, without further talking, here’s the beautiful product!

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The Miracle Hair Oil-Free Replenishing Serum by Chelsea Scott (retail value $24.95) is a fabulous hair product that can be used on wet or dry hair to combat frizz and environmental elements that dull your hair and make miraculously transforms your hair to luxurious, soft, and silky without weighing it down.

I know you probably are thinking, “Oh, well you have straight Asian hair, you don’t need any products.” Well, part of that is true, (thanks, genes!) however, I love using products to enhance my natural hair and to make it shine like the healthiest head of hair ever. I can honestly say this serum did just that.

I only needed two pumps of this miracle serum and worked it through my damp hair. It has no scent which is perfect for me since I sometimes worry that my other scents I put on (like shampoo/conditioner, body lotions, perfume, deodorant, soap,etc.) are competing with one another and I end up smelling like one big mystery bouquet!

Most times when I use a serum, I end up with heavy, greasy hair that feels like someone cracked an egg on top of my head! No bueno!! Anyone else had that problem with serums?? I must say that this product did the opposite of that and made my hair look beautifully shiny and felt super soft that I couldn’t keep my hands off of it throughout the day!

Another great feature of this product is that it is from a local company in Clearwater, FL created by Chelsea Scott, a woman who has over 20 years in the hair product industry! It launched in 2012 on the HSN Network and became a huge hit and I can see why!

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“As a woman, I understand hair issues commonly faced by today’s women,” says Scott, “TRUHAIR was born out of my passion to help women look and feel beautiful on the inside & out because when you are having a great hair day….everything else seems to fall into place.”

TRUHAIR is an innovative hair care collection that provides women with easy-to-use solutions that deliver TRU RESULTS.  Its groundbreaking formulas and advanced technology has proven successful in addressing concerns faced by women, while providing healthy ingredients to their hair along with volume and shine.  Now, women everywhere can feel empowered and confident when it comes to styling their hair.

Chelsea Scott

Now to the fun part! Simply enter my first giveaway by doing the following super easy steps!

  1. Visit TRU Hair’s Facebook Page and Liking it <3 And if you don’t have Facebook, they have an Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter accounts you can Follow. Choose whichever but at least one (or all!) and then
  2. Commenting DONE on this post once you do!

And, that’s it!! Easy peasy, right?!

This contest is open to to my beautiful readers,even my International readers! YAY!

One entry per person, Winner will be announced Friday, October 31st at 12 Noon Eastern Time. I will be using the fancy and super technical way of drawing the winner…by writing the name of each entrant on a piece of paper and having my husband draw it out of my Hello Kitty Easter Basket. I’ll be sure to post photos!

Here’s to my first giveaway, to YOU, my amazing friends, and to TRU Hair for sponsoring this giveaway!!

Good luck!!!

<3 always,

christina

Be a Flamingo in a Flock of Pigeons

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Hi, my loves!!

I hope you are having a happy week so far. I wanted to write about my weekend and life in general…isn’t that what blogging is about? ABSOLUTELY!

Now, who watched the premiere of The Walking Dead last night?? I don’t know about you, but I was NOT ready for such an episode like that. I literally couldn’t sleep last night!! I was (and still am) completely freaked out about the first 10 minutes of the episode, and even though I know it’s not real, it was just THAT good of an episode to where it rocked my emotional state. I begged my husband to stay up last night because I couldn’t stop thinking about it! I watched American Dad on Netflix until I fell asleep. Have you ever watched anything that shook you like this that you couldn’t stop thinking about it/freaked out by it?

I felt the same way when I read the book, Gone Girl. I felt the same way when I went to go see the movie. It’s a really chilling movie and definitely a movie where I looked at how crazy people can be.

The best part was seeing Ben Affleck’s side penis…which if you haven’t seen my Instagram photo of my reaction after I saw the movie, here it is again:

Gone Girl Ben Affleck Reaction Review

Interestingly enough, I received a message about this photo and how unladylike it was of me to post something like this. The person said they weren’t a prude, but that they didn’t want this on their page and wanted to know how to delete it. Then to continue on to saying that it could look bad for my business and that I should remain a lady and girly. This was a random message sent directly to me.

Normally, I would have apologized and probably took it down. But this wasn’t the first time this person messaged me directly with some backhanded comment. Their messages always made me upset afterwards, so instead of taking their advice I took my own and decided that it was a funny photo and it was staying put. That photo IS my sense of humor. It’s what makes me, ME!

 

Some people like to put others down. They like to make it seem like you’re not doing something right and try to get in your head. You start to second guess yourself, think that you’re not good enough or what you’re doing isn’t important enough, and that you’re not busy enough…whatever the case, these people suck and need to be put in their place. They may think that because you aren’t doing what they’re doing, i.e. working a typical 9-5 job that you have nothing else to do. That you always have time to do something since you’re not that busy.

 

Well, I like to take a moment out there and tell the people that not everyone is like you, or wants to be like you.

Honestly, I don’t want to work a typical 9-5 job. I need to have a schedule that is open for my creativity and doesn’t exacerbate my anxiety. But that doesn’t mean I’m not busy. I’m a wifey, a blogger, a social media maven, an Origami Owl salesperson, a graduate student, a graduate level intern, and well, me! I may not look like I have a busy life compared to yours, but for me, my life is busy. And you’re not going to make me feel like yours is any better or more important.

So, for this week, I’m telling you to never feel inadequate compared to others. Think opposite in that YOU are just as important and what you do is just as important. It may not look the same as others, but it doesn’t make your life any less exciting or fun because you do it YOUR way.

I found this meme on Instagram, and found it perfect for this post.

Click on it to get a free download =)

Image via LuckyDayBlog.com
Image via LuckyDayBlog.com

I plan on getting a flamingo charm for my locket! I will be sure to post a picture when I do!

I hope you have a happy week!! Thank you for reading my post, I really appreciate you stopping by and reading.

<3 always,

christina

p.s. In case you’re wondering, I did tell that person off and to leave me alone with their comments. <3

I Woke Up Like This…Just Like This.

You know those mornings when you just know you woke up on the sucky side?  I had a morning like that today.

It came to a shock to me since I had such a really good day yesterday! I went to school where I felt like I am finally getting the hang of practicum/internship, I felt great, AND I hit 1,000 followers on WordPress (not including the Publicize feature where you make your friends and followers on other social media sites follow you!) #sorryimnotsorry

Any who, I woke up with my body sore from working out to a Jillian Michaels’ video yesterday, with a sore neck because my cat, Berkeley, decided that the top of my pillow works as her new bed. I know I could have just moved her, but being the crazy cat lady that I am I didn’t want to move her. (She looked so cute and comfy sleeping!!)

Once I did get up and going, I needed to get dressed to go to my internship. I usually plan out my outfit the night before just so I don’t stress the day of (does anyone else do that?) Of course, I didn’t pick out my outfit for today so that created at least half an hour of frantically changing.

“I love this color of this long-sleeved tops, “No! It’s Autumn but I’m still in Florida. So, short sleeves it is.  BUT if I wear that shirt, I need to change bras, or maybe I can get away wearing a tank top under the shirt so you can’t see my wrong bra? Ok, pants or no pants?! Or a skirt? Wait. I wore that LAST time I worked. Will anyone remember? No, no one will remember. Wait! Someone might but I know I did.”

So, pants win. It’s usually always, always no pants, I hate pants, but pants actually felt OK today. Awesome, right!?

Finally! Dressed pretty and ready to go.

I don’t know about you, but to a woman with anxiety and self-esteem issues, getting changed over and over when she has to be somewhere can bring on such stress and anxiety. The overly anxious version of myself would have just wanted to give up and run back to my bed. Fortunately, my more confident, more rational self is bigger than my anxious version and centered my thoughts to let me know that everything will be alright. You can’t go back to bed because you have a commitment to go on Fridays. And if you go back to bed, then you just let the overly anxious part of you grow a bit bigger. I didn’t want that.

I breathed. I breathed again. Breathed once more. And again.

And out the door I went.

I'm going to make it happen Inspirational quote

I made it to my internship site and the time I was there went great. =)

Afterwards, we went to the nearby Ikea store for celebratory Swedish meatballs.

Celebratory Ikea Swedish Meatballs Tampa

Have you experienced a sucky morning but pushed through it and later be happy that you did? Were meatballs involved by any chance?! lol. I’d love to know!

Here’s to the weekend! Cheers, pretty girls! ( and guys!)

<3 always,

christina