Sneak peek of the VS fashion show 2013 Courtesy of Authur Kade
Who doesn’t need a little support now and then? I know I do!
And just like a push-up bra from Victoria’s Secret, I want my girls and my mood to be lifted when its down.
Support systems are so important to one’s mental health and their overall well-being. Having someone to support you, no matter who it is, can be very positive in your life. This support can help ground you, get you out of your mind, and fight those negative thoughts and combat any self-doubt you have. By sharing your thoughts with someone you trust, you can gain insight to your problem that you may have never thought of.
Sometimes it is nice to hear it from someone who isn’t your direct form of support. For example, my husband is my emotional rock as he never freaks out. I love that about him and many other things. Although I love my husband and I am so lucky to have him, I spend most of my time with him and sometimes I don’t hear his opinions as loud as I do from my female friends.
Me: “Babe, (insert girlfriends opinion) thought I need to<blank> and try <blank> and that <blank>. I never thought of that before! I feel so much better!”
Ronnie: “Really, babe? I HAVE BEEN SAYING THAT THE WHOLE TIME!”
Me: “What? No, you haven’t. Oh well! (insert girlfriend’s name) was right!!”
Ronnie: (face palm) Sighs.
Does this^^sound familiar to anyone??
Something that I learned from studying in the Mental Health field is that one of the main intake questions are “Do you have a support system? If so, who are they?”
Whether or not you have a support system tells a counselor a lot about you. It tells the counselor if the client is isolating themselves and may have a problem with reaching out for help. It also tells the counselor who else they can reach out to when they are not meeting for an appointment. Since counseling appointments are usually scheduled to meet once a week, it is important to note who else the client can reach out to when they need support.
We need the support of love and encouragement from family and friends and vice versa. We need to know that we are also needed to give out support and a listening ear to those in distress. This can be encouraging to our own self, knowing that we are needed and that our opinion is valued.
It can also help us focus less on our problems and focus on others. This does not mean to put your our troubles in the backseat by any means, but sometimes by helping others can help put our problems in perspective.
I attended a local Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meeting for my class assignment. We were told to go and see how these support groups work and notice how they are conducted. The meeting lasted about an hour long, and I thought it was such a supportive group of people and it was FREE therapy, given by people who are going through the same problem. I absolutely loved it. I was able to apply their mantra of “Keep coming back” and “One day at a time” to be inspiring as I can apply it to my own issues with anxiety. I took the mantras and related to it my life by telling myself to “Don’t give up, keep fighting, and if one day is shitty, then there’s always tomorrow. One day at a time.”
I’ve never been to a meeting before, although at one point in my life I used alcohol and drugs to self-medicate my anxiety and depression, I was told to go but never went. Fortunately, I was able to get medication and haven’t had to self-medicate since. I think it can be a scary thing to reach out for help, but this is proof that support in our lives, no matter how big or small, can really have a positive impact in our lives.
I found out that there are many local meetings going on everyday in my town, and I encourage anyone who is or has a friend that needs help with drugs or alcohol to seek help.
http://na.org/ is the best place to start.
Who are your support systems? I’d love to know! Even if it’s just one person, your pet, that’s a good place to start. Even though we may think isolating ourselves makes it easier, it actually hurts you in the long run. Open up, reach out, and get some support! (for your girls(if you have ‘em!) and for your well-being!
Have a happy Saturday!!!!